You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
- Author Unknown
New Year’s Eve. What a love/hate relationship the world has with this day, this evening. Countless movies have taken place with this day woven into twisting plots. Songs have been written about its magic, its potential, its sadness, its silliness. Some love it. Some hate it. Some could care less.
But no matter where you fall on that opinion poll, there is no getting around the fact that one year is ending and another will begin. It’s a reminder that time marches on (seemingly a bit more quickly each year), and life keeps unfolding.
For some, this time of year brings reflections about the past year, and hopes, goals….or even…dare I say the word…resolutions…for the upcoming year. There seem to be as many opinions about resolutions as there are about the holiday itself.
I am one of those people who does the whole package…the reflecting, the hoping, the goal setting, and yes, even the resolutions.
One of the most common counter opinions about resolutions is….people don’t keep them. I’ve felt that before. In the past, I’ve gotten to the end of the year and looked back at my list of “resolutions” realizing I didn’t accomplish some of what I’d hoped, and that can be discouraging.
But in the past few years, my resolutions have started to shift. Sure I still have a few that can be checked off a list. But more of them now have shifted to include things such as filling my days with more of what I love, changes in my actions, changes in thinking: lifestyle changes.
This week as I sat down to write my goals for this upcoming year, I realized many of them were exactly the same as last year. But unlike in the past, there was no discouragement with this realization. I decided it was actually a very good thing. I know, sounds a little counter-intuitive, nothing to cross off or check off; but I’m beginning to think, that might be the way it’s supposed to be. So much of the good, rich stuff of life is often a little more complex, messier. It evolves and changes. You got to roll up your sleeves a bit and dig into those big, beautiful, life-changing goals.
Interestingly, this blog offered me a very tangible presentation of what I have been working on this year; and guess what, there really is nothing on this list meant to be checked off.
My goals this year started with inspiration from the beautiful Holstee Manifesto. I shared some of those early musings in my very first post on this blog, Come Flow with Me. The Manifesto was so inspiring, just so good, I’m sharing it again (Click on it to see the full size.)….
What lovely hopes, goals, even resolutions were shared in this manifesto; not for a year, but for a lifetime.
From there, the goals for my year began to unfold. I have worked to do more of what I love, to consciously look for what I want to see more of in the world, to play more, to be kind, to be present, to travel, to slow down and appreciate my experiences, and to make time for the important things.
Have I accomplished all of these things?? He%& no!!! (Pardon the expletives.)
I haven’t come anywhere close. But actually, I don’t even wish I had. Then I’d have to retire to the top of some mountain to hide from all the adoring seekers wanting to know…How?? How did you do it??
No, I’ll leave that role for a little old woman, the likes of which are left to storybooks, living at the end of a zig-zagged road, in a tiny house, sitting precariously atop a faraway mountain.
Me, I’ll just keep on truckin’ down here.
I have without a doubt found more success at some of these goals over others. I have certainly made fun a priority this year. I have traveled and prioritized play very well, and boy have I loved it. I am learning to make fewer excuses, and take responsibility for things that I am not accomplishing or happy about. But, I still struggle with staying present, staying in the moment. And man can I still waste time, like nobody’s business. But whether I have made great strides in an area, or I’m sort of just still treading water, all of these things are going onto my list again.
I will be content this next year bumbling through my days as a living, breathing, work in progress, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
In this wonderful year of words, one of the best things I heard was:
You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
I am exactly where I am supposed to be. YOU are exactly where you are supposed to be. Sometimes in the great pursuit for growth, or in the sometimes discouraging work of reflection, it is easy to overlook this most important, fundamental, beautiful piece of truth: WE are exactly where we are supposed to be.
So as this year comes to a close, whether you are a reflector and a goal setter, a dreamer and hoper, or if tomorrow is simply just another day – take at least one minute before this year comes to an end, and tell yourself, right now, right here, you are just right.
You are exactly where you need to be.
Happy New Year my friends!